{"id":13549,"date":"2014-01-11T14:45:04","date_gmt":"2014-01-11T14:45:04","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/cooksdelight.co.uk\/blog\/?p=13549"},"modified":"2014-01-11T15:16:24","modified_gmt":"2014-01-11T15:16:24","slug":"out-of-neglect-comes-affection-or-does-it","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/cooksdelight.co.uk\/blog\/2014\/01\/out-of-neglect-comes-affection-or-does-it\/","title":{"rendered":"affection\/neglect\/affection  a test some of us have to take in life"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>in one&#8217;s life one finds a vast array of emotions<\/p>\n<p>as a child perhaps un be knowing of \u00a0so much<\/p>\n<p>there is not the realisation of a parents needs<\/p>\n<p>reality can mean your out of touch<\/p>\n<p>but in a child&#8217;s mind \u00a0there can \u00a0be great visions<\/p>\n<p>that sally back and forth and won&#8217;t depart<\/p>\n<p>whatever they are ,they are meaningful<\/p>\n<p>and permanent<\/p>\n<p>really part and parcel of the heart<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>a mother is the angel in the mirror<\/p>\n<p>a mother is the fantasy around<\/p>\n<p>a mother makes it happen<\/p>\n<p>a mother waves her wand<\/p>\n<p>perception is the father I have found<\/p>\n<p>whatever happens whether dreams<\/p>\n<p>or nightmares<\/p>\n<p>the child may blame the mother<\/p>\n<p>on all counts<\/p>\n<p>and as the child grows up<\/p>\n<p>and becomes a mother<\/p>\n<p>she may recall<\/p>\n<p>how she felt<\/p>\n<p>as she mounts<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>the various stumbling blocks<\/p>\n<p>that may present themselves<\/p>\n<p>and tries in many way<\/p>\n<p>so to fulfil<\/p>\n<p>maybe she does<\/p>\n<p>or possibly she doesn&#8217;t<\/p>\n<p>but it means her love is<\/p>\n<p>endless really still<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>and as the years pass<\/p>\n<p>and her mother ages<\/p>\n<p>and her needs grow<\/p>\n<p>with each passing hour<\/p>\n<p>that she may call on her daughter<\/p>\n<p>for some favours<\/p>\n<p>and once again neglect<\/p>\n<p>may sort of sour<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>one&#8217;s thoughts<\/p>\n<p>those years when possibly<\/p>\n<p>one&#8217;s life could have been good<\/p>\n<p>instead somehow it was not to be<\/p>\n<p>though honestly it should<\/p>\n<p>that said a soul emerges<\/p>\n<p>as warm and as kind and does<\/p>\n<p>forget the bad times<\/p>\n<p>and draw s on the reserves<\/p>\n<p>and with \u00a0a buzz<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>that draws heartfelt \u00a0emotions<\/p>\n<p>and gives it out at will<\/p>\n<p>loves the mother<\/p>\n<p>loves her so<\/p>\n<p>letting it all spill<\/p>\n<p>the mother should have given more<\/p>\n<p>but the child became the soul<\/p>\n<p>who now can teach the mother<\/p>\n<p>can \u00a0now take on that role<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>despite so many problems<\/p>\n<p>the daughter may still \u00a0find<\/p>\n<p>a willingness to help her mum<\/p>\n<p>though it may be, a bind<\/p>\n<p>she can do it from her heart<\/p>\n<p>she wants to make the time<\/p>\n<p>resentment in the background<\/p>\n<p>for she&#8217;s the glowing spirit<\/p>\n<p>who will climb<\/p>\n<p>who gives her love so purposefully<\/p>\n<p>in a realm of her own making<\/p>\n<p>adversity has strengthened her<\/p>\n<p>and she&#8217;s giving now not taking<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #444444;\">neglect can be a lasting stain<\/span><\/p>\n<p>on a child that felt \u00a0alone<\/p>\n<p>but a child who learned and realised<\/p>\n<p>that from all the wild flowers sown<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #444444;\">the one&#8217;s that come to fruition<\/span><\/p>\n<p>and produces the sweetest scent<\/p>\n<p>is the one that she \u00a0remembers most<\/p>\n<p>and thus remains content<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>the mother may feel sorry<\/p>\n<p>seeing the daughters \u00a0display<\/p>\n<p>and really then regretting<\/p>\n<p>some things she did say<\/p>\n<p>and some things she forgot to give<\/p>\n<p>the mother may now feel<\/p>\n<p>humbled by the kindness<\/p>\n<p>that somehow she does steal<\/p>\n<p>reality resentment recounted<\/p>\n<p>possibly<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #444444;\">but<\/span><span style=\"color: #444444;\">\u00a0the soul has grown in stature<\/span><\/p>\n<p>and is flying admirably<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>maybe sometimes reflecting<\/p>\n<p>on if, \u00a0 \u00a0 then what might be<\/p>\n<p>but thinking now to be able<\/p>\n<p>to help provide that key<\/p>\n<p>that doesn&#8217;t really open the door<\/p>\n<p>too well but \u00a0clearly she<\/p>\n<p>can at least get inside<\/p>\n<p>with some effort<\/p>\n<p>which we see<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>and what that tells us<\/p>\n<p>is<\/p>\n<p>the daughters stature<\/p>\n<p>grew and grew<\/p>\n<p>she had a heart<\/p>\n<p>much bigger than the heart<\/p>\n<p>perhaps of \u00a02<\/p>\n<p>daughters<\/p>\n<p>had the mother had them<\/p>\n<p>and with this we see<\/p>\n<p>an image of great beauty<\/p>\n<p>for perpetuity<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>in one&#8217;s life one finds a vast array of emotions as a child perhaps un be knowing of \u00a0so much there is not the realisation of a parents needs reality can mean your out of touch but in a child&#8217;s &hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/cooksdelight.co.uk\/blog\/2014\/01\/out-of-neglect-comes-affection-or-does-it\/\">Continue reading <span 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